Avoid matryrdomI definately nedd to work on this, although I am not sure I would lie, but maybe just state simply, that is all I can fit in right now and then change the subject. This could also be something I need to work on with the Gluten Intolerance.
How many times have you sat down with friends at a dinner party for a lovely meal and someone who has never had a weight problem foes on and on about how they can't ear this or that because they are on a diet? As a result, at least some poeple at the table felt self concious about filling their plate and enjoying their meal. Not only did the "dieter" spoil the meal, but they openly insulted the host by judging the dinner unfit to eat.
The middle of a dinner party is not the best time to share your personal choices and to become a martyr for your new lifestyle. You can take your smaller portions and not draw attention to the,. If someone asks you why you took so little, just say you want to sample everything, and then change the subject. Be a rounded conversationlist, and people will remember the interesting person they sat next to as opposed to the person who made them feel bad about themselves.
Action for the day:
Reflect on ways to be intersting around people instead of focusing everyone's attenton on your food choices.
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Monday, April 25, 2011
Avoid matryrdom
Be sensitive to how your changes affect others
Be sensitive to how your changes affect others.
People may not understand why you have made so many changes that affect their lives. A spouse may be confused by your new interests. Your friend may miss having her eating buddy on Friday nights. Your boss may not understand your moodiness as you adjust to your new lifestyle. Your kids may miss getting fast food.
Let others know you understand your changes affect them. Tell your children, for example, you will be able to play with them more because you will be healthier. Explain to your husband that you want to be more active with him, rather than watch TV. Try to help people adjust to your new way of being.
Discuss the affects of your changes with others who are close to you.
Avoid the foods that do you in.
Avoid the foods that do you in.
What, if any, foods trigger negative emotions in you? Do you crave certain foods? Are there foods that make you feel deprived? These foods are the ones to avoid as much as possible.
No one is perfect, but the people who succeed at lasting weight loss are the ones who understand how certain foods negatively affect them and eliminate those foods from their diet. Try to be honest with yourself as you examine your feelings during meals.
In your journal, write down how you feel about this day's inspiration. Do any foods come to mind that you need to consider eliminating from your diet?
© 2007, Katie Jay. All rights reserved.
Friday, April 22, 2011
Take care of your "tool"
Take care of your "tool."A carpenter uses a router to carve beautiful designs and to make notches to piece furniture together. Yet if he does not know how to use this tool, he only destroys the wood he is carving.
The same holds true with your stomach pouch. If you care for it by following your surgeon;s guidlines, your tool will perform well for you. However, gastric bypass patients who continually eat more than their pouch can comfortably hold may stretch the stoma or opening from the stomach to the instestines. Lapband patients may avoid getting a needed fill or may eat too many soft rich foods, thus making their tool ineffective.
Action for the day:Review your surgeon's instructions. Are you using your pouch well?
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